The New Crop: Issue #46
what beliefs will our kids take away from us? + the I-We-It framework for stuck conversations
What’s in this issue:
💭 Thought: What beliefs will our kids take away from us?
📚 Read: I-We-It: A Framework To Have One Conversation at a Time
😆 Today’s Laugh
Now, can the mouse teach my kids how to clean their rooms like this? 🤪
💭 Today’s Thought
I’m currently reading the book The Code of the Extraordinary Mind. In it, there’s some parenting advice that is helping me react more calmly and positively to my kids’ behaviors and actions:
No matter what you do, in any situation with your child, ask yourself, What beliefs is my child going to take away from this encounter? Will your child walk away thinking: I just made a mistake and I learned something great or I’m significant?
- Shelly Lefkoe
Not only am I finding this thought helpful when my kids “mess up”, but it has also prompted me to clarify what I want for them:
What specifically do I wish my children to believe, about themselves and about the world?
What do they need from me, in order to come to those beliefs?
If you have kids, what comes up for you with these questions?
If you don’t have kids, I’ll offer that you can apply Shelly’s advice above to how you treat yourself…
When you find yourself in moments of self doubt, or beating yourself up over a mistake, ask: What beliefs am I going to take away from this encounter [with myself]? Will I walk away thinking: I just made a mistake and learned something great or I’m insignificant?
Use those moments to lovingly re-parent yourself. 💜
📚 Today’s Read
I-We-It: A Framework To Have One Conversation at a Time
By: Allison Schultz, Ray Foote, Andy Crissinger, and Chris VandenBrink
“Ever have a conversation that doesn’t seem to go anywhere? Oftentimes, we think we’re talking about one thing, but there are actually more unspoken parts happening in the conversation. In these instances, leaning in to voice concerns, share your perspective, or offer feedback can be tricky. In this post, we’ll introduce the I/We/It framework, and share how it can be utilized to tackle conversational tension and stuckness.” Click here to read more.
See you next week!
xo,
Anne